Did you breastfeed or bottle feed? While I’m pro-breastfeeding and breastfed both of my biological children for over a year each (still breastfeeding my 15 month old a few times a day), I think it’s important to support those in your life who are not breastfeeding. I feel like society puts so much emphasis on “breast is best” and I agree with that. However, there are many reasons that some moms simply can’t breastfeed. Sometimes their bodies don’t produce enough milk. Maybe the baby is not a good sucker. Maybe the baby got off to a bad start by being in the NICU and being fed by a feeding tube. All of these things can work against a mom who really was looking forward to breastfeeding. You can see a lactation specialist to help with different problems, but in the end, your goal should be a healthy, happy baby and mother, no matter how your baby is getting his nutrients. If you were not able to breastfeed or simply chose not to from day one, don’t beat yourself up. There are plenty of babies who live and thrive on formula and grow up to be super stars! I’m sure there are plenty of people around you that snub their noses at you for not breastfeeding, but don’t let them bother you. You have to do what is best for you and your family situation, no matter what others think.
For those of you who did choose to breastfeed, you can probably vouch for me saying a lot of times it’s not easy! I was very fortunate to have 2 babies that sucked well and breastfeeding came naturally to me and my babies. With my first, I didn’t run into too many problems other than a bit of sore nipples. However, with my second, I did have some more breast issues to deal with and now have a much better understanding why some moms stop breastfeeding. I had sore, cracked, and bleeding nipples at first and then about four weeks into breastfeeding, all was going really well, but I ended up with a bout of mastitis. That was one of the most painful things I ever experienced! It makes you feel kind of like you have the flu; rundown, feverish, and tired. Plus there is excruciating pain on the infected breast at the slightest touch and when trying to feed the baby. They say to feed as much as possible on the infected side to help, but wow, I literally cried every time I had to put my daughter there! Thankfully, with a couple days of antibiotics, it cleared up. All that being said, I can see why some moms are “scared” to breast feed in the first place because as you know, the minute you tell people you’re pregnant you get all these horror stories thrown at you about birthing and parenthood! I’m surprised we actually get pregnant in the first place after hearing all our friends talk about how painful everything can be! LOL
For those of you who chose to breastfeed, did you do so in public places such as at restaurant tables or on benches at the park or in the mall? If so, what kinds of stares did you get from people? This is a subject I get really fired up about!! Many people are disgusted that you would even consider “whipping it out” in public, but yet no one is disgusted by the scantily clad models pictured just down the hall at the mall in Victoria Secret! Victoria Secret models are showing WAY more skin than a breastfeeding mom peacefully feeding her baby, so people, get real!! There is nothing bad about breastfeeding in public if you’re willing to look at and let your kids see the Victoria Secret models!! Most moms choose to also use a breastfeeding cover-up, so you don’t actually see any skin anyway, so I really don’t get why some people are disgusted by it (you people with this philosophy, please give me your comments because I would really like to know why you feel this way)!! If bottle feeding is an acceptable form of feeding at a restaurant table or somewhere else in public, then what is wrong with also breastfeeding there?